Distraction

My explanation of things (words in this case) is not always dictionary based. This is because reality has shown that different people in different situations are experiencing events differently due to the different emotions that are being applied to our experiences. Additionally, words got different levels of definitions to them and from many different angles. This also include the word distraction, its functioning and the different ways and types of affect it has on us.  

Damage caused by distraction, it is bigger than we contemplate, and it affects last longer than we can bear. This is simply because we are continuously underestimating the distractions we are facing. We often don’t even recognize many of our experiences as distractions, and it is when a distraction can cause the biggest damage and danger to us. These are what I call the unidentified distractions, and these are the very ones that sleepwalk us to our disaster. They have an innocent appearance of a hidden intention of which the damage will reach the service, way after it planted it seed. 

What is distraction?          

Distraction is everything and everyone that managed to take away your mind off what you should be doing or focus on. This can be on purpose or innocently, yet both will be at your disadvantage and at the benefit of the distracting party, whether they would realize it or not. This is because the distractor agenda can be either consciously or unconsciously. Such behaviour often originates from the attention seeking nature of the distractor, in part. Those that are distracting others intentionally know, but may not admit, that it is largely selfishness driven. In case as such, the plan is to keep the other party from doing or achieving something and that for a variety of reasons, but their agenda will be of hidden kind. Intentional distractors are psychological, manipulative and conning, in their attempt of weakening someone, in order for them to gain. They know what they want and how to try to achieve that. 

Contrary distraction can also come to you from an unintentional source. These are those whom are simply wants your attention, since they believe you to be the right pillar for them to lean on, and that often without even realizing that they are distracting that person from his personal progress. They are simply longing for some attention in order to counter their loneliness and fear. Hence, their distraction attempts are mostly based and originates from an embedded emotional need, fear and feelings of insecurity. The fear and feeling of insecurity aspect can also be related to the intentional distractors, since they don’t believe to be strong or capable enough to win a clean and honest race to success. 

Candidly, we don’t need to go too far, when looking for the main distractor. This is because the chief distractor is to be seen right in that mirror that we are facing. 

This is because what the majority of us fail to realize, is that everything starts with and from one and this also includes your defence. You are responsible for your protection (self-defence). Meaning, you have to be on high alert and awareness of what is going on around you and that at all time. 

One good example to drive from is what we are being told on a flight in terms of safety. Even a mother is being advised to first put on her safety elements and after apply them on her child. 

Additionally, don’t we realize that if a weaken mother of a starving family would take the only food, she found to feed her child instead of herself. She will die, leaving no one behind to provide for that needy child, and that child will also die shortly after. While, if she had strengthened herself, she would be strong enough to go find more food to feed herself and her child back to strength.   

The reality here is that we cannot stop and nor can we blame people for being distractive, because distraction is a human trade and condition. It comes in pleasant, annoying, innocent and damaging fashions. We are all it or suffering from it. The use of distraction in not necessary, but humanity has allowed time and events to place it in a dependable position, regardless of the fact that self-efficiency is part of our nature. 

We are ending up depending all our successes on someone else’s participation. We simply don’t believe that we can do it alone. Not even realizing that no one can help you successfully where you don’t put in an effort to help yourself. The word ‘help’ itself is being misinterpreted. The Dutch word ‘tegemoedkoming’ explains it best. It is a synonym of the word help (hulp), meaning ‘meet halfway’. The bible than said it clearer; God helps those who help themselves. Meaning, the effort has to be yours first because the required basic for your success is your own input. 

Third party help seekers don’t comprehend that one of the other major conditions that humanity suffers from is called selfishness. No one is fully willing or capable to help another without its own self-interest. Meaning, they will give you something and at the same time take something from you. Furthermore, we don’t like everybody and are therefore not willing to help everybody or watch other helping them. Our envy mind will kill the deal, and we will even try to sabotage it, when possible. Our insecurity will trigger us to play it safe by conning our way through to the hearts of those we need to assist us towards our glory. It takes a lot of thinking and energy to manipulate another person to advantage us. Energy that many of us believe we don’t have, when it comes to helping ourselves. It is like having a lot of your own money and using it to help another person, and at the same time thinking of yourself as being too poor to provide for your own needs. 

The truth of the matter here is that people are living and socializing with others and for the benefit of their own interest, and therefore will always try to pull you into their direction. 

They will try different stunts to make you trust them, walk with them, understand them, think with and like them and for you to join them in their actions and interest. This is because speaking and understanding their language is the only way they can develop and come to a harmonious relationship with you, in ways in which you can further lower your guard, for them to totally control you.

It is vital to know that in every relationship between 2 or more individuals, the thoughts of one of the parties will always dominate that of the others. The strongest mind will be highly stubborn and determine to take control in ruling and shaping the minds of the others, and with that take on the position of the leader of the group and the dominating and deciding force for all involved. Someone that everyone in that group will consult and consider in their undertakings, whether it is out of trust, respect or fear. This can only mean one thing, which is that you have become distracted from your thoughts and self-control and redirected into someone else’s 

Nonetheless, regardless of all the challenges that come with and through distraction, your focus is yours and yours alone. 

You are the only one in charge of it, and your management of it is key. Indeed, distraction is an attempt of one person to mislead another person. It’s to be compared with a penalty take and a goalkeeper. The one sets itself up to score, and the other one task is to prevent that from happening. Only one can win, but which one of them wants to win the most? You are the one that is expected to guard to focus and safety. See your focus as something valuable that is put to safety behind a massively secured door that only you can unlock, for strangers to get in.

The conclusive moral of the subject at hand is you have to guard you. If you are not in control yourself, you will be controlled by other and will have only yourself to blame. 

By Balanz

Tawfiqqal Amin

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